Ok, I think I’m doing better with the decision to wait to get pregnant. Talked to Marmot about the topic the other night, and I feel good about where we’re at and where we’re going. And in the spirit of the
Baby Inferiority, I’m going to actually write out my Baby Bucket List. I truly am that person that could be ok with being asked to solve all the world’s problems, just so log as I can make a list!
The Must-Haves, the absolutely no-negotiation list- these will happen before I get pregnant:
*Marmot having a full-time job. Yep, that’s it. He’s applying for tons of stuff in the company of choice right now, and starting to apply for things outside of that field. Could we do it all without him having a job? Yep we could. But I’ve heard pregnancy has enough issues, I don’t need to add ulcers and fights with my husband to the list!
The Gotta-Haves, the list of things that I even would delay getting pregnant for, until completion/accomplishment date would be before a due date:
*Finishing my degree. Expected graduation date is November, 2010. Under no circumstances will I still be working on that when a baby gets here. No way no how.
*Buying a house! The lease is up on our house in June! Leaning towards moving regardless if Marmot has a job or not, just because our rent will likely go up if we stay, and we know we’re going to stay in the area. I so can’t wait to get into our own house, and get all the pent-up decorating vibes out. I’ve been holding them in for THREE YEARS!!
*A new (to us) vehicle. We have a standard cab truck that barely holds Marmot, me, and my purse, so a new vehicle has to happen before we have a baby.
*Credit card #1 paid off! We have two credit cards and have been making some amazing strides towards debt reduction- but I still want to have one credit card paid off before a little monkey arrives. I know that we’ll have it paid off this spring, so its a small goal- but still, I want it done so its on the list.
The Would-Be-Nices, the list of things that I should do now, just because I should:
*I’d like to be at my ideal weight. Blehh, but has to be done. I made a lot of progress this summer, but I need to finish it up!
*Start and maintain an exercise program. Currently looking for a fitness challenge, because nothing other than pure competition and stubbornness will get my off my fat ass to do it! I have been thinking a lot about natural childbirth, and I know that one factor in that being an option is my body being in the best shape possible. Regardless if I do NCB or not, pregnancy and birth will be a much more pleasant process if I’m in good shape.
*Marmot being done with his MBA. Which would be November 2010 if he doesn’t have a job. If he gets a job he’ll go to part-time classes, which means he’d graduate in June 2011. No problem, although it would be really nice if we were both done with school when a little monkey is born.
*Pay off our truck! We have less than a thousand left, we’re almost there!
*Pay off credit card #2. Getting it to half of what it is right now would be great.
*Graduate classes. I’d like to spend any pre-baby time getting through some of them. Just because as not interested in more school as I am right now, I’m really going to be not interested when I have a little monkey in the house.
*A trip to Europe! Marmot and I had talked about going in 2010, but his job situation is delaying it a little bit. It would kind of be a babymoon, but I’d like to go before I get pregnant.
Ok, so I feel a lot better writing it out. I have some really good reasons for wanting to get these things done, and the Would-Be-Nice list is just that. And it gives me a place to start- I’m not doing a whole lot to work towards goals on the Would-Be-Nice list either. I don’t want pregnancy to be a sudden realization that I’m not anywhere near my goals. I can do this!
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