Please don’t anyone with kids get offended. I don’t mean it to be snotty. I just need to say it. I think its the grown-up version of peer pressure. And I don’t think its intentional, but I’m just going to say it: I don’t like being treated as inferior to women who have kids.

But I’m not kidding, I get more comments from people about this. I’m not shy, if they ask when we’re going to start a family, I’ll tell them probably when Marmot has a job and we have a house. And I swear to god, everyone tells me ohhh, you don’t need to wait, why not have one now? Are my reasons not good enough? I keep hearing babies don’t really need that much in the first year anyway, and how they did it when they were homeless/destitute/didn’t have a pot to piss in, so apparently I should choose to do it that way too. I honestly don’t get it, why is it not ok that we wait? Given a choice, wouldn’t they have preferred to have their kids once they got the pot?

And it extends further than that. Its like there is the expectation that because I don’t have kids, I’m expected to accomodate those who do. Its frustrating to me. I feel like I get treated second-rate sometimes because I don’t have children. I understand that my friends who have kids don’t have the free time that I do. I understand that people who have kids have priorities that are different from mine. I understand that the relationship they have with their child isn’t something I can’t comprehend yet. I’m ok with that, and I think I do a good job of being understanding.

What I will never understand is the attitude I get when I comment on something like looking forward to sleeping in- and getting a snort and well, you obviously don’t have kids. Yep, I don’t. What’s your point? Its like I get sneered at for being able to have time to do things that they don’t. I like to meditate and make a point of setting aside time for that every day. But I don’t dare mention that, because they have kids and don’t have time to do that anymore. Oh just wait until you have kids. Yep, I’m pretty sure it will be different. But why isn’t it ok that I do that now? I know, you’re wonderful because you created life. Can’t it be ok for me to live mine until I choose to do the same?

I don’t have kids yet. I’m ok with that. Why can’t everyone else be?