The best month to have a baby- yes, this is the crap that fills my mind when I’m in a boring meeting- so every month I calculate what my due would be if I got pregnant this cycle. We’re not actively trying, but I love estimating what my due date is and at what date I would be starting my second trimester (thank you Baby Center for setting the dates out for me to obsess over!) and when we would tell family (is the 12 week mark around a holiday perhaps) and when my maternity leave would be.
Oh maternity leave- three months off- when would be the best time to have time off? Would that would be in the miserable bitter winter months, or perhaps the warmth of summer to enjoy the new baby? Then there is family to consider, such as when would family be most able to visit (because Marmot’s parents live a long ways away) and what our traveling plans would be for the holidays.
The holidays are important because we have family spread across the US- and I know that the whole extended family in the Deep South will want to meet the newest member of the family. I’m told that traveling would not be advised until baby is at least six weeks ago (at least) and even then, I think I’d prefer holiday travel to not start until more like ten or twelve weeks.
We’ve talked about starting to try in October- that would give me a July baby. I’d have the summer off to just relax with Baby and Marmot, and be able to get out of the house and enjoy the few warm weather days we have this far north.
But if we don’t start in October, I’d like to wait until January in order to have an October (or later) baby. Being at home during the coldest bitterest months of the year is not a bad thing- I figured that out when I broke my arm two weeks after Marmot and I got married. Nobody wants to go out when its -15 and blizzarding, who wants to leave the house in that? I keep thinking that it would be so nice to stay snuggled up at home with the new baby, and not feel like I need to leave the house.
And reality check, I do know that its not likely we’ll get pregnant on the first try- but one of the best parts of this waiting stage is the dreaming and planning, however unrealistic it may be.
What would be your favorite month to have a baby?
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Chubby Teacher
The only consider 2 things, though we did plan on it taking at least a few months. #1 I cannot handle the heat as it is and I didn’t want to be super pregnant in the summer. #2 as a septempter baby, I considered the registration deadline for kindergarten. Around here you have to be 5 by December 1st. It sucks to always be one of the youngest and smallest kids in the class. Our fetus Carlos should be the oldest and biggest with a January due date. That’s teacher thinking. If it would have taken longer to get preggers,like we planned, I wouldn’t have to come back from maternity leave. Oh well, you can only plan so much.
Chubby Teacher
The only consider 2 things, though we did plan on it taking at least a few months. #1 I cannot handle the heat as it is and I didn’t want to be super pregnant in the summer. #2 as a septempter baby, I considered the registration deadline for kindergarten. Around here you have to be 5 by December 1st. It sucks to always be one of the youngest and smallest kids in the class. Our fetus Carlos should be the oldest and biggest with a January due date. That’s teacher thinking. If it would have taken longer to get preggers,like we planned, I wouldn’t have to come back from maternity leave. Oh well, you can only plan so much.
MAK
I had my baby in March and I’m glad I did. But my ideal month would be June. Then I could get outside right away because it wouldn’t be too cold to take the baby out. I’d be motivated to work out and get back in shape right away, and I’d be able to do it outside in nature. Hiking outdoors in LA is amazing and the trails pretty much all accommodate strollers. So the next time I’m gonna try to get pregnant in late August or September.
MAK
I had my baby in March and I’m glad I did. But my ideal month would be June. Then I could get outside right away because it wouldn’t be too cold to take the baby out. I’d be motivated to work out and get back in shape right away, and I’d be able to do it outside in nature. Hiking outdoors in LA is amazing and the trails pretty much all accommodate strollers. So the next time I’m gonna try to get pregnant in late August or September.
Whitney
I’d love to have a November or March baby, personally. Nothing really to do with the weather or anything like that, just some of my favorite people were born in March & November!
Whitney
I’d love to have a November or March baby, personally. Nothing really to do with the weather or anything like that, just some of my favorite people were born in March & November!
Tired Mom Tésa
I remember how fun it was to play with BabyCenter’s estimates! The tools out there now are wonderful and exciting. Have you checked out Fertility Friend? It takes obsessiveness to the next level. Can’t decide if I’m recommending it or warning you to stay away from it!
My favorite month to have a baby would be any that would not involve being pregnant over the summer – so I guess April or May. I was pregnant with both over the summer and it wasn’t terrible but I do remember easily overheating. On top of that one of mine was born early December and the other late January so we have the holiday season surrounded and it’s hectic!
Just remember to have fun with it and try not to stress too much!
Honey B.
I’m slightly addicted to the Babycenter estimating options…which is why I’m scared of Fertility Friend, I could completely lose control! lol
Tired Mom Tésa
I remember how fun it was to play with BabyCenter’s estimates! The tools out there now are wonderful and exciting. Have you checked out Fertility Friend? It takes obsessiveness to the next level. Can’t decide if I’m recommending it or warning you to stay away from it!
My favorite month to have a baby would be any that would not involve being pregnant over the summer – so I guess April or May. I was pregnant with both over the summer and it wasn’t terrible but I do remember easily overheating. On top of that one of mine was born early December and the other late January so we have the holiday season surrounded and it’s hectic!
Just remember to have fun with it and try not to stress too much!
Honey B.
I’m slightly addicted to the Babycenter estimating options…which is why I’m scared of Fertility Friend, I could completely lose control! lol