I’ll admit it, I’m a people watcher. Marmot is too, which I think is why we click as a couple. One of our favorite things to do is sit in a public place and watch people. We grade their outfits, comment on their hair, try to guess their weights/pant sizes, refining our gay-dar’s, and just generally gawk.
And of course, there are always people that are just beautiful. Perfect weight, perfect clothes, perfect accessories. {I say accessories because I can’t find the life of me get a handle on how you should wear accessories?!?} Everything looks perfect- they have a lot of shopping bags, well-behaved kids, everything looks as it should be. Especially this time of year (the time of year where I get a Weight Watchers ad in the mail- bastards, I know I’m fat!) I’m always looking at people who are skinnier than I am, and seem to make that effortless.
But something I’ve learned? As much as I envy what it seems like they have, I try to remind myself that it covers up what they don’t have. Nobody has a perfect life.
The woman with the perfect exterior? Maybe doesn’t have a great marriage, which is something I’m so lucky to have. Or she and her Mom don’t get along, when I have a Mom that is my best friend. Even if she has what I don’t have- a knack for accessories, or the ability to fit into a size 4 jeans- she has other things I don’t have, and probably don’t want.
And even though I have to remind myself on a regular basis sometimes, I’m grateful for that.
What are you grateful for?
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Bug's Mom
My mom was just telling me about a couple she sees everyday when she picks my dad up from BART. The woman is blind and everyday she gets off her train after work and waits for her husband in the same spot. Everyday he gets out of his car, wearing a red jacket that matches hers, greets her with a big kiss and holds her hand as be guides her to back to the car. My mom said she always has the biggest smile on her face. Though I frequently forget, i’d rather have this kind of a perfect life. And when I really am honest, I think I do.
tabitha
right on sister
grass is not as green as it looks
and skinnier is easier to fix than a broken marriage!
30ish Mama
Great post! I am so glad I found your blog. Nobody has it all, I think that is just a myth anyways. I agree with you, the important things in life are good, solid relationships. Everything else is just fluff.
Natalie
I tend to have this same outlook on things. You never know what is beneath the surface. Course there is always a chance that their life is story-book perfect, and if so, good for them I guess (bitches), but it is probably more likely you are much happier and more blessed.